Madrid, in a typical conversation today, it is not difficult to detect when someone has stopped listening. Their attention shifts, their reactions come too quickly, or their eyes wander to a waiting screen nearby.
Communication continues, but something important has been lost. We are speaking across platforms, devices and digital spaces more than ever before. But are we really listening to each other?
Public debate today tends to focus on speech. Questions about who can speak, what should be regulated and whether free expression is under threat dominate discussions about digital life.
These are undeniably important questions, but they rest on an assumption we rarely examine: that being heard is a natural consequence of speaking.
The ancient Athenians understood that democratic speech requires two things in equal measure: the right to speak and the courage to tell the truth. But both ideals depended on the presence of something that was rarely discussed explicitly by the Athenians, since in the agora it was simply assumed: the willingness of the audience to actually accept what was being said. Speech and hearing are not opposing issues.
They are two aspects of the same civic practice, and you cannot defend one without considering the other.
Today, we invest tremendous energy in protecting and expanding voice. We pay much less attention to what is happening on the receiving end.
what listening actually requires
Listening is not a passive activity. This is not just the absence of words, nor is it the same as hearing the words pass by. Being a good listener is seeing other people’s claims as meaningful and something that can be understood, explained, and responded to.
Philosophers call this phenomenon “absorption”: the willingness to accept exactly what someone says before reacting. In practice, this means thinking about an argument long enough to truly understand it, rather than responding to a simplified or distorted version of it.
This means distinguishing between what one actually claims and what we assume they mean. This means viewing speakers as participants in a shared exchange rather than as obstacles to be overcome.
This is harder than it sounds. We tend to listen to respond rather than to understand. We look for moments of rebuttal, for weaknesses in arguments, for opportunities to make our own points. This is not listening. It’s waiting.
This distinction is important in democratic life. When citizens focus on caricatures of opposing viewpoints rather than the viewpoints themselves, public debate loses its ability to generate anything other than noise.
Disagreement becomes performance. The argument turned into drama. And the possibility of truly persuading others, of actually changing your mind based on what others say, quietly disappears.
The digital environment makes listening harder
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The platforms that now host much of our public conversation were not designed with listening in mind. They’re designed for engagement, which is a very different thing.
As measured by major social media platforms, engagement means clicks, shares, reactions and time spent. According to these metrics, content that evokes strong emotions—especially anger, indignation, and moral alarm—tends to perform well. Content that invites careful reflection often does not.
The result is an information environment that systematically rewards the communication styles that are least conducive to true listening: fast, declarative, emotional, and designed to provoke a reaction rather than prompt a response.
The situation is further complicated by the way algorithms feed us content. Rarely do we encounter arguments in their full form, presented by the person who holds them in the context in which they are presented.
Instead, we typically encounter snippets, screenshots, summaries, and paraphrases, often chosen because they are easily overlooked or ridiculed. In other words, we are being trained to interact with comics. And comics don’t need to be listened to. They just need a reaction.
The consequences for democratic life are serious. A public sphere where people are constantly speaking but rarely feel truly heard is not a healthy environment. In such situations, frustrations accumulate, positions become more entrenched, and the common ground needed for collective decision-making becomes increasingly difficult to find.
This is not just a technical issue. This is a citizen’s. It requires a citizen response.
How to teach listening
The good news is that, unlike algorithmic design, listening is something we can directly influence. It’s a skill, and skills can be taught.
In an educational setting, this means creating space for students to consciously practice absorption.
For example, teachers can hold debates and require students to restate their peers’ arguments to their satisfaction before offering criticism. This approach creates an environment in which equitable participation is a structural expectation rather than an afterthought, and disagreements are viewed as opportunities for understanding rather than winning.
The same principle applies outside of live discussions. Students can be asked to listen to a podcast, watch a video, or read an article with one task in mind: Can you fairly explain its argument before deciding whether to agree or disagree?
These are not just classroom exercises. They are a preview of democratic life.
These habits can also be developed outside of formal education. Before responding to something that irritates you, pause long enough to ask if you understand the real argument.
Before criticizing a position, restate the position in terms recognized by its holder. Separate what a person says from your assumptions about why they said it. These are small tweaks, but practiced consistently, they will change the quality of your exchange.
A democracy that only teaches people free speech only accomplishes half the job. In ancient Greece, the marketplace was not a stage.
This is a place of exchange. Restoring this spirit in classrooms, conversations, and the digital spaces we now all inhabit begins with the quieter, more demanding skill of learning to truly listen. SKS
SKS
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